NurtureShock is a compelling collection of several modern scientific research results into a set of articles on the raising of children. One key article about praise is based on the work of Dr. Carol Dweck which she wrote about in her book Mindset. Here are some key ideas from these books:
- Praise effort not Intelligence.
- Make specific praise.
- Kids under age seven take praise at face value.
- Only offer sincere praise otherwise your opinion isn’t valued.
- Telling your child you love them is always a good thing.
- Kids keep score even when the parents don’t.
- Your brain is a muscle. Exercise it and it will grow stronger.
- Cultivate a growth mindset over a fixed mindset.
- Sleep deprivation looks like lower intelligence.
- Sleep deprivation increases depression and moodiness.
- Talk to children specifically about race, don’t assume platitudes like everyone is equal conveys the same lesson.
- Child snoring is a red flag. Get them to a sleep clinic.
- A box of costumes will enable children to take on a roll. This type of play is good for them.
- Mixed age play is good.
- Kids are categorized by ability at too young an age to get anything close to useful results.
- Avoid all television for ages two and under.
- Some television for ages five and over may actually be beneficial.
- Sibling relationships can be predicted before the second child is born by behavior of the older child.
In an earlier blog post, I wrote about a chapter from NurtureShock and children’s executive function. This was amazingly developed in a program of teaching called Tools of the Mind. I wish to explore that further in a later blog post. Here, I have gathered videos related to the rest of the above topics and the authors of these two books, NurtureShock and Mindset.
Po Bronson is interviewed at WNYC about his book NurtureShock: